Universal Secret Number Four: You Can’t Fix People
And That’s Not Your Job Anyway
I can’t control anyone but myself.
Not their choices, not their moods, not their growth timeline.
And wow, has that been a tough pill to swallow? Because part of me wants to make things right. I want to help. I want to say the perfect thing that makes someone suddenly get it.
But that’s not how it works.
People change when they’re ready — not when I’m prepared for them too.
And honestly?
Trying to control or fix someone is exhausting. It’s like trying to rearrange the ocean with a spoon. You end up soaked and frustrated. What I can control is how I show up and how I respond, whether I choose peace over chaos.
Whether I set a boundary instead of silently stewing in resentment.
Speaking of boundaries – I used to think they were walls – cold and distant. But now I see them as doors. They say, “This is how you can love me well.” They’re not about shutting people out; they’re about maintaining healthy relationships.
Boundaries are love in action.
For others, sure — but primarily for myself.
I can’t control anyone else.
But I can choose how I move through the world.
And that’s more than enough.