You Can’t Control Others – Only Your Response

Universal Secret Number Four: You Can’t Fix People

And That’s Not Your Job Anyway

I can’t control anyone but myself.

Not their choices, not their moods, not their growth timeline.

And wow, has that been a tough pill to swallow? Because part of me wants to make things right. I want to help. I want to say the perfect thing that makes someone suddenly get it.

But that’s not how it works.

People change when they’re ready — not when I’m prepared for them too.

And honestly?

Trying to control or fix someone is exhausting. It’s like trying to rearrange the ocean with a spoon. You end up soaked and frustrated. What I can control is how I show up and how I respond, whether I choose peace over chaos.

Whether I set a boundary instead of silently stewing in resentment.

Speaking of boundaries – I used to think they were walls – cold and distant. But now I see them as doors. They say, “This is how you can love me well.” They’re not about shutting people out; they’re about maintaining healthy relationships.

Boundaries are love in action.

For others, sure — but primarily for myself.

I can’t control anyone else.

But I can choose how I move through the world. 

And that’s more than enough.